Sunday, April 8, 2018

Are We Ever Really Done With Self Care?

I have been on the healing path for well over a decade and I can tell you that healing is a journey, not a destination.  Why would you want to be static in life rather than moving forward?  I remember telling one of my clients last week that when I first started receiving professional body work years ago, before becoming a massage therapist, I expected one session to permanently fix me for good.  At that time, I was younger and not used to having anything wrong with me, so expecting it to be short and sweet made sense to me at the time.  Also, when I had my level 2 reiki class ten years ago, that's when the real healing began and is still happening to this day.

Up until I had my level 2 reiki class, I knew nothing about healing at a deeper level than the physical body.  After I had my level 2 reiki attunements, a lot of non physical issues started coming to the surface all at once.  Even then, I was naive enough to believe that one or two reiki sessions should be enough to get rid of everything.  Again, I wasn't used to being aware of anything needing to be addressed in the first place.  Heck, I was even naive enough to believe that being able to do reiki on myself was a substitute for having a reiki session with a professional and wondered who in their right mind would spend money on reiki sessions instead of just taking the class.  At that time, I had not had enough exposure to body work to understand the benefit and value that it really holds.  I have had reiki masters help me get through difficult issues that I would have never been able to address on my own.  They found stuff that I never knew was there such as self sabotage, energetic components to physicals pain, past trauma, etc.

Fast forward several years when I got into tapping.  My first exposure to tapping was books and videos.  I did a lot of tapping on my own that was very powerful and I noticed immediate shifts.  I met a tapping coach at a networking group and enjoyed chatting it up with her.  Again, I did not understand the value and benefit of working one on one with a tapping coach.  I honestly thought that tapping on my own was enough.  Well it turned out that she was in need of my services.  If I had not had the opportunity to get to know her as a client, I probably still would not have been able to understand what she could do for me.  I started seeing her for intense sessions.  She found stuff that I would have never found in 1000 years of tapping on my own.  She specializes in helping small business owners move forward.  Several weeks of intense sessions with her lead to clients just showing up without having done any marketing.  People finding me in ways that didn't make sense such as referrals from people that I didn't even know.

Fast forward to today:  I am still tapping on my own and doing daily self reiki treatments.  All of this self work hasn't been a substitute for professional services, but it has saved me a ton of time and money on how often I need professional services.  Healing is a process.  Healing happens in layers and not all of those layers can be healed at the same time.  Your body needs time to adapt in between whatever self care you are doing.  My motivation for keeping up on self care:  I feel like crap if I don't do it.

If money is a factor that scares you off from regular professional services, here is one tidbit to keep in mind:  The more self care you do on your own from home, the less money you have to spend on professional services because you may not need to go as often.  You will always have self care to do if you want to maintain results.  There is no such thing as doing therapeutic exercise for 2 weeks and then being done.  The most challenging clients that I have treated are those who don't change a thing about their lifestyles in between appointments.  I am currently in an online tapping program continuing to release stuff I did not know was there 10 years later.  Why?  Because everyone deserves me at my best and I value myself.

Sunday, March 18, 2018

How Can Tapping Help With Pain Relief?

Tapping comes in handy when stuff no longer makes sense physically.  Have you ever had a treatment from an excellent reputable therapist who would find a lot of stuff that made sense, but pain wise, you still felt like you were playing a game of whack a mole?  There can be any numbers of reasons for that.

Tapping works with the limbic system of the brain.  The limbic system is where we store old memories, traumas and how we perceive these memories and traumas.  Ever see two people experience the same injury and notice one recovers fairly quickly and the other one is still in pain several months to years later?  The way each individual perceives their experiences vary and the way those experiences are stored in the body also varies.

Anything in the limbic system of the brain trumps anything that can be changed in the physical body through physical manipulation.  This means that if there is a blockage in the limbic system of the brain, none of those physical touch therapies will work until the blockage is cleared.  Think about trying to move out of your house with boxes stored in front of your door, keeping you from being able to get out of your house.

Examples of removing the boxes from the doorway:

When I did some exercises out of Nick Ortner's, "Tapping Solution for Pain Relief" book, burning, excruciating pain that I had in my right shoulder blade pain for over a decade got felt 80% better.  The memory that came up was that this was when I was at a job I hated and my husband was having a hard time holding down a job.

A client with bad TMJ from a car accident was seeing me for bodywork and I gave her a copy of "The Tapping solution for Pain Relief" book.  When I asked her how she liked the book, she said in addition to helping with the haw pain. it also helped her anxiety and depression.

I worked with a woman with calf pain that doctors could not figure out.  No matter what procedure she had done, it still hurt.  We tapped on some stress related events that happened in her life when her calf started hurting and then I did some Voila Method of Structural Joint Balancing with her while she was still seated in the chair.  Her calf never hurt again and I never got her on the massage table to do any manual therapy.

I recently worked with someone who get frequent migraines.  No matter what physical manipulative therapies he had that is supposed to help migraines he received, he got worse and was getting them more often.  That does not physically make sense at all.  I asked him how long he had been getting them.   He told me the year they started and he had 3 traumatic life changing events that happened that year.  We did  full session of tapping and it has helped his migraines significantly. 

Tapping does not replace counseling or psychotherapy.  It used used for stress relief only.

Monday, August 7, 2017

Why I Take My Own Self Care Seriously

I want to share my own personal story and perceptions about self care and how it impacts everyone's lives that we touch. I firmly believe that when we are emotionally triggered, feeling snarky,etc., that something or someone is acting as a mirror to show us what is really going on inside of us. That can be scary for some people. It's not an easy pill to swallow. Like attracts like, even if we think the person or experience is projecting the opposite of what we think we would do.

I grew up the youngest of four kids. My two older sisters and I share the same biological parents. My step Mom adopted my brother when she was married to her second husband. My Dad was her third husband. When my step Mom and Dad first got together, us three girls lived with our biological mother. Her name is Deb. Deb called my Dad one day ready to send us to social services. My Dad was going to let her, as he didn't feel adequate to care for our needs, either. My step Mom, or my Mom as I call her, stepped in and said she would take care of us. She didn't want us separated or worse yet, on the streets. Wow!!! What a sacrifice! My sisters were 4 and 5 years old at the time. I was 6 months old.

The sacrifices that my Mom made for us did not stop there. It was non stop. Everything we ever needed was provided, at the expense of Mom and Dad going without. There was no other choice that could have been made and nothing anyone could do about it. The sacrifices were beyond just basic necessity. My Mom and her side of the family have very high standards. My Mom is a perfectionist. When we went to the lake, burgers on the grill on paper plates wasn't good enough. It was steak with real dishes and silverware. Sounds great, right? OMG, those standards were the most stressful part of childhood for me. When Mom went through that kind of trouble, being around her was like walking on eggshells. She was constantly upset, angry and yelling at us the whole time. This was also what every holiday she ever hosted was like. Going to potlucks meant bringing enough food from one family to feed an army. She told us that's what people with class do and that too many other people were bringing one small dish just enough to feed 3 people were coming. She was worried about shortage of food. Is it any wonder why going home for the holidays or just visits are something I would rather avoid?

The other families who did not put as much pressure on themselves were having fun and their Mom's super cool and relaxed. Everyone was jealous of our meals. We were jealous of the peace and harmony in their families. Observing our parents and their choices certainly shapes who we are. My take away from my upbringing is that putting other people's needs above your own can manifest in ways that actually hurt the people you are trying to help. When we are not whole, everyone around us knows it. This is not meant to judge my upbringing. It is only meant as an observation of my upbringing. 

I notice similar types of interactions with other people in general. One example is therapists and other body workers putting their clients needs above their own by not scheduling appointments for themselves with other professionals or cancelling on them when a client wants the same day and time. When I get worked on by these same professionals, they are tired and express hoping their next client won't show up. What? When I used to work out of a massage franchise, the break room was filled with constant negativity of listening to the other therapists complain about which clients they didn't like and who they wish would stop requesting them. Yep, you heard that right. When you work for someone else other than yourself, you don't get to make any of your own decisions and this type of negativity is the result. This has actually been my experience at every multi therapist practice I have been at, whether or was a massage franchise or a privately owned massage practice. If you are being worked on by a therapist who works for someone else other than themselves, you risk being worked on by someone who may wish that they didn't have to work on you at all. 

The point that I am making with this post, are my perceptions and observations about why I make the self care choices for myself that I do. I screen all potential new clients to determine whether or not we are a right fit to be working together. I think this is the level of service that potential clients deserve and it's the fair and right thing to do. I offer a unique style of body work that is not a massage and gets better long term chronic pain relief results. You appreciate knowing what your getting is advance and what to expect. I was not allowed to be unique at the other massage places that I worked out of. They do not like that. 

The reason I work on myself and get worked on by other professionals is so that I can be the best version of myself that I can possibly be. I really can't do that without putting my own needs first. Everyone deserves me at my best. If you are particularly moody, you might be an empath. This is something to watch out for. Are you taking stuff out of other people who haven't done anything wrong? Are other people taking their stuff out on you when you haven't done anything wrong? This is a result of not cleaning up your own "laundry". How many piles of dirty "laundry" do you have hanging around. 

Back to my family. Many of them have serious major medical problems. I do not. While there are numerous reasons for illness and I am not placing blame. Even self care junkies may have some major medical issues they were born with. My point is, that self care can have big rewards in the long run. The are two kinds of people out there. Those who only see what is in front of them and then the big picture people. I am the big picture type who knows that all of the money that I am spending on body work services, chiropractic appointments, special supplements, exercise DVDs, fitness equipment,etc., is significantly less than what my family is spending on their health, even with good insurance. Any time and money I don't put toward my well being now, could lead to an inevitable trip to the hospital. 

Do what is right and realistic for yourself. Is there something you always do yourself that you can delegate? What are you comfortable delegating and what would you rather handle yourself? When I used to go to networking groups, several people who work on websites and print for a living wanted to work with me, but I am a control freak who doesn't want other people touching my stuff, but I am willing to take suggestions and apply them. Take on honest assessment of what is right and realistic for you. Not what other people think is right for you. But what you know is right for you.

Sunday, August 6, 2017

How To Know When Your Pain May Have Non-Physical Roots

I am going to give you my cheat sheet that I use when speaking with potential new clients.  This cheat sheet is how I decide where to start them off in their first session with me.  This is how I determine whether or not to start them off with energy work in my Columbus pain relief practice, before doing any physical manual therapy with them.  I ask them their full history.  Not just their physical symptoms, diagnoses, etc., but I also ask them what else was going on in their lives when the pain first started, when the injury first occurred, etc.  And yes, there is usually something, whether anything comes to mind right away or not.

How I suspect non physical aspects of pain:

-When they say they have tried everything and nothing works

-When they schedule their appointment with me and then immediately have a serious injury right afterward, causing them to have to reschedule for a later date.

-When they walk out of my office feeling great and then immediately re injure themselves

-When they are obsessed with certain life events, to the point that it comes up in every conversation

-When current life events prevent them from coming up with the time and money to do self care or get professional help (being "too busy")

-When they are gifted with the tools and resources, but keep forgetting those tools and resources are sitting right on their bedside table

-When they are easily triggered to the point of resistance by what other people have to say

-When they are only willing to see one therapist and will not consider combining therapies (emotional attachment to your favorite therapist is a real thing and will hold you back 100% of the time)

-When they have their mind made up that they are only going to see a new therapist once and this decision is made before they pick up the phone to call that new therapist (these people are the de-bunkers who feel coerced to make the appointment by a friend or family member and want to prove that nothing works for them)

-Secondary gains, such as going back to a job they hate once they recover, etc.

How to know when someone is ready to look into their non physical components of their pain:

-They are open to everything and anything in regard to different treatments and therapists

-They are focused on symptom resolution, rather than what the technique or modality is (they don't care whether it's myofascial release, trigger point therapy, reiki, basket weaving 101, etc.)

-They trust the professional to decide what techniques, modalities and treatments that they need (someone who found me online because they searched "neurokinetic therapy" didn't care that they ended up getting craniosacral therapy instead)

-They are not easily triggered by what other people have to say and appreciate all of the help and insights that they receive

-They are never "too busy" for self care or professional help.  They make it a priority.  (If you are another body worker, you make sure you pencil in "you time" and don't schedule your own clients during your "you time" even if they ask for that day and time)

-They understand that the important people in their lives deserve them at their best and they also understand how the important people in their lives are affected when they are not at their best

These lists are compiled from my own years of experience and observations.  You may have more that you would like to add, based on your own experiences and observations as well.

So, what do we do about these non physical aspects of pain, you ask?  I am going to keep the it very simple by recommending my number one favorite resource.  It is a tapping book.  The difference between tapping on your own from home and doing it with a professional is that the professional will help you find stuff that all of the self care in the world will not.  This book is great and best to use in conjunction with working with a professional.  The more self work you do in between appointments, the further you progress with the professional and the less appointments with them that you need, saving you some serious $$$$$$. This not not counseling or psychotherapy. The purpose of tapping for pain relief is to remove any obstacles getting in your way.

This book took care of excruciating pain and burning inflammation that I had in my shoulder for over a decade.  I also recently facilitated a session with a client who had the same thing going on in her hips and groin area for over a decade, and the pain and inflammation were gone before getting her onto the table to do some manual therapy.  I believe in this book so much, that I keep a stock at my office to gift to clients in need. My goal for this post, is to empower you, whether you are a client of mine or not.

Saturday, August 5, 2017

Do You Notice Shoulder Pain After Hiking?

Do you notice shoulder pain after hiking?  Do you hold any objects in your hands such as a water bottle while you are hiking?  This can prevent your body from the proper arm swing.  Typically in gait, the right arm should swing when we step forward with the left leg and the left arm should swing when we step forward with the right leg.  When this doesn't happen, it creates imbalance in the body.  When we walk, run or jog, the arms need to be free to move.

Whenever I have gone hiking with a water bottle in my hand, I would end up with shoulder pain after my hike, even though I changed which hand that I carried the water bottle in throughout the hike.  I only noticed the correlation through trial and error.  Whenever I remember to bring my water bottle holster, my shoulder didn't hurt afterward.  The arms do not like to be stagnant during movement.  Unnatural movement of the body or forcing an area of the body to stay stagnate when it should move creates compensation patterns throughout the body that can create more pain and dysfunction in other areas of the body not related to the shoulder area at all.  One common area are the hips.  When you go for walks or hikes, do you notice the hips not feeling lined up with each other?  Pay attention, because this can lead to no longer being able to hike anymore of not addressed right away.  One thing that I do like about long walks and hikes, is if my hips do feel unbalanced at the beginning, they usually balanced toward the end.  Long walks and hikes for me usually make my hips feel like they have been adjusted.

For a long hike in the woods, I like to have a fanny pack, for essentials such as keys, phone and driver's license, and a water bottle holster for my water bottle to hang off of my hip.  Some fanny packs come attached to a water bottle holster.

Wednesday, August 2, 2017

Garden Injury Prevention

Every spring, summer and fall and see an influx of garden injuries in my Columbus pain relief clinic.  Much if what I see is preventable. One of the main reasons I see them, is because of bending over from a standing position.  This can be problematic, especially if you have large gardens and plant a lot of vegetables.  Even with small flower gardens, this can still aggravate the back, no matter what your lifestyle is like.  You cannot out exercise bad body mechanics.  With that being said, proper body mechanics alone are not always enough, so lifestyle is important in addition to proper body mechanics.

One way to address the lifestyle issue is this.  I am not a fitness expert and am not passing this off as advice, only stating what I do.  Certain things I have noticed about my body through trial and error.  I do my best with a strong core and loose hips.  I workout regularly and I have noticed that the more I sweat through working out, the less heat sensitive I am overall, so I am less affected by the heat during outdoor activities such as gardening, hiking, etc.  I still have to be safe about it.  My exercise routine is a little shorter in the summer time, despite having air conditioning, since that is what is safe for my body.  Safety first, always.  In order to keep my hips loose, I like the gentle styles of yoga that include a lot of deep hip stretches.  I feel like that helps to counter how tight they get during cardio and strength training.

Now, on to body mechanics.  Bending over from a standing position while gardening is a recipe for disaster and can injure your back.  I always recommend that clients get a stool for kneeling and sitting.  I like the kind that offers both options and has sleeves in it to hold your garden tools.

Sunday, July 30, 2017

Do You See Your Therapist As Healer Or Facilitator?

This is a very important question to ask yourself. Seeing your therapist as a healer gives away your power to your therapist. Seeing your therapist as a facilitator empowers you. One of my mottos in my own Columbus pain relief practice is 10% of your progress is what happens while you are at my office. The other 90% is the lifestyle choices that you are making in between your appointments with me. In other words, we do NOT "fix" anybody. We facilitate the process, but you fix yourself. I share a lot of affiliated Amazon product links to self care products and books on my website, blog and Facebook page to empower YOU, regardless of whether you are a client of mine or not.

There are two types of people who look for help with their pain. 

Those who see us as facilitators:

-Have realistic expectations

-Understand their role with self care in between appointments

-Show up to appointments without expectations and remain open to possibility

-They focus on symptom resolution, NOT the technique or modality, meaning they are open to everything and anything and will allow the facilitator to do whatever they think is necessary to help them on their pain relief journey

Those who see us as healers:

-Expect us to "fix" them

-Expect to be completely cured after only one session

-Do not want to participate in lifestyle changes that would improve treatment outcome

-Tell the therapist which of their techniques and modalities they can and cannot use on them. Sorry, folks, you will NOT get results with this mindset!

-Expect guarantees.

-Expect the therapist to know ahead of time which techniques they need. This can change moment to moment based on how you take to treatment.

I will give some examples:

I had a phone call from another therapist last week who wanted 100% guarantee that I could "fix" her and feels that anyone who cannot "fix" 100% of the population should not be licensed.

I had a woman calling about Neurokinetic therapy for her husband. Whenever someone calls me about one specific modality, I make sure that they understand that I combine modalities and techniques for symptom resolution and that I cannot guarantee that the specific modality they are requesting in necessarily what they are going to get or how much of it they are going to get. He wasn't open to my other modalities, so I kindly declined him as a client, knowing that he would not get desired symptom resolution.

I also had a lady with major jaw issues express her disappointment over starting out the session with tapping because she expected bodywork.

Here is how to get the most out of your wellness sessions with a therapist:

-Show up with zero expectations. It is a process.

-Allow the therapist to come up with your treatment plan by being open to everything and anything. If the therapist has tried a treatment or modality on you in the past that clearly does not work for you, that is when it is appropriate to speak up and say so. If you are new and haven't tried it before, then hear them out.

-Be prepared to do whatever it takes in between sessions to get better, even it that means turning your lifestyle completely upside down. Nothing moves forward without change.

-Make sure your therapist knows your entire history, not matter how insignificant you think that is it. I had two clients who had dysfunction in their hip coming from their eyes. I would not have thought to check them for that particular dysfunction if they had not told me they had been to the eye doctor earlier that day. They are both elderly. One of them told me that the older you get, the longer and more invasive an eye exam can be.

Make sure you have read their website before scheduling. We all work on pain in a different way. It is always best to speak directly to a therapist you have never been to before, even if they have online scheduling. DO NOT schedule a session online with a new therapist you have never been to before. Make sure they treat what you are seeing them for.  Massage  therapy has a very limited scope of practice. I have had people on occasion call me about conditions  that sounded serious enough for an orthopedic surgeon consult. I saved them the time and money by not scheduling them in the first place. Massage therapists do not treat acute injuries. That is out of our scope of practice.

-Only schedule appointments for yourself. Do NOT schedule a session via third party for a family member or friend for many of the reasons stated above. Those who are vested enough to schedule their own appointments are more likely to do the self care. If you have to schedule it for them, they are not vested enough to want the session. I always speak directly to the person that the appointment is for, in order to make sure we are on the same page and that they resonate with what I do.

Everyone that I treat in my office sees me as a facilitator. I speak with all new clients ahead of time in order to determine if it's a right match. I think I confuse people when I ask them questions, even after that have said they are ready to schedule an appointment. I get it. Most therapists only care about their pocket books and do not do this. But I do, so expect it 😃